“Flow Celebration” Mourns Mother-Daughter Murder Victims in Madison
I tried to find information on the memorial service(s) throughout the week as far as the time, and the only things that came up was today on Channels 15 and 27, and in The Wisconsin State-Journal. I would have thought that the cold and the aftermath of the blizzard would have kept people from coming, but hundreds of people, it is said, came to celebrate the lives of Amber Weigel and of her daughter Neveah Weigel-Adair, who were killed by Neveah’s father, Tyrone Adair.
Adair, who was also the father of Deja Adair, murdered the child along with her mother Tracy Judd that same day. Members of the Weigel family attended the funeral of Tyrone Adair; and Adair family members in turn were present at the memorial service held at Olbrich Botanical Gardens. I am not able to upload the video from either television channels because WordPress and its share video software are incompatible. A link to the article and the video is under the Channel 15 above; however, Rita Adair and her son’s backs were shown; understandably they did not wish to be interviewed by the press. Missing from attendance was the family of Tracy Judd. I wonder how they are faring; I wonder whether they could bring themselves to be in the same room as the Adairs.
The family of Amber Weigel and her daughter Neveah have been through a week of hell but instead are focusing on the wonderful years they did have with the sister and niece they loved.
Sister Nicole Adams says, “That is the word, love. No anger, love, peace, forgiveness.”
It is a powerful message delivered by two sisters of Amber Weigel.
Sister Heather Weigel says, “You just have to love. That’s all it is. Everyone is a human being and everyone has their struggles and not everyone deals with them. ”
8 days after Weigel and her 2 year old daughter Neveah were found gunned down in their own garage by Tyrone Adair, Neveah’s father, this family is moving forward with a message of love and forgiveness.
Heather says, “If it wasn’t for him we wouldn’t have had Neveah and while it was a short two years it was the best two years of Amber’s life and probably the best two years of ours.”
Nicole says, “You can’t focus on the circumstances of how they died because you can’t get through that. You have to focus on how they lived and that’s what everybody needs to do.”
Dozens of pictures and memories fill the tables outside of a memorial service for Amber and Neveah, memories this family wants to share.
Nicole says, “We wanted to make sure that everyone knew that she was a person, that she wasn’t just a victim of a crime. Neveah wasn’t just some little girl that was killed. They were people, They were so much to so many people.”
Heather says, “(she was) Out of the box, not falling in line with what is the normal, what everyone thinks is supposed to be and that’s part of the standing up for what she believed in. You don’t like it, sorry. ”
Nicole says, “Amber was such a great person and such a great mom and we just want to make sure that everyone knows that, how wonderful they were and how much they were loved.”
They say Amber was alive, she was fun, a spitfire.
Nicole says, “She was wacky and caring and confident.”
They are qualities that will stick with this family forever as they move on remembering the wonderful lives lived, not lost.
Both Heather and Nicole say they went to Adair’s funeral yesterday to help with the healing process.
These people are going to be released from the cycle of hatred and revenge far easier than someone looking for blood for the deaths of loved ones. Somewhere, somehow, people have to stop the rage within themselves and put an end to further bloodlust.
The start of the five-hour “flow celebration” drew many parents and students from Montessori Children’s House, where Amber worked and Neveah attended preschool.
“Everyone in the (Montessori Children’s House) community loved them, and everyone associated with the school is a better person because of Amber,” said Stephanie Yurcisin, whose three-year-old daughter goes to the school. “She was full of joy and full of life. With the first snowfall of the year she made sure to go out of her way to show the children the snow, to make sure they shared in the joy and the magic of it.”
Photos of the mother-daughter pair filled the room; a family album documented Neveah’s life from birth to a first bath and beyond. The Mt. Zion Children’s Choir was scheduled to sing in the early afternoon, and throughout the day children were invited to “coloring tables” to draw their own tributes.
One note written in a child’s hand, on display near a spray of flowers, was signed “Desi.”
“Amber and Neveah,” it read, “I just want to say good-by and I love you.”
Amber’s boyfriend, who also attended, proved to be too overcome with grief to say anything coherent to reporters. I know he wished he had been there to protect Amber and Neveah.
Because of the topicality of the blizzard, most news coverage has died down regarding this case, but I think it may be because of the example of the Weigel sisters that some of the virulent hatred aimed at Tyrone Adair, his surviving family, and also the whole issue of interracial relationships and biracial children has also begun to run its course–for the moment. Wisconsin is not Cheeseland for nothing.
As I said before, yall take care out there. If you need help or if you know of someone who needs counseling or has mental health issues, contact 311, try Catholic Charities on Franklin Street at 608-256-2358, or in the midnight hour, call Suicide Prevention at (608) 280-2600.